Be A Good Woman, Because A Man Will Always Remember How You Treated Him


Too many of you say that men do not really want a nice gal. You firmly believe from your bad experiences that most men actually enjoy being treated badly. I can assure you this is not true.

Your words and your actions can have effects on a man that will last him a lifetime. That cruel comment you made about his mother, that day you were so angry you called him out of his name, those times you ignored him for no reason at all, the times you chose not to text or call and decided your friends were more important than he was, the times you didn’t open his car door, or walk him to his front door like a lady, he carries those in his mind. And he carries them over to the next woman.

Men remember every nice thing you do or say in the same way they remember every pitiless thing.

When you are good to a man — even if it ends for whatever reason — he will always remember you. You may never know that, but he will. He will think about the way you made him laugh or the way you dried his tears. He will remember the way he could speak to you for hours. He will remember that you made him feel like a man, that even when he was wrong, you still made him feel like a man. You will be the standard for all of the women in his life that follow. If they can’t compete with you or do better, they become bottom of the barrel. You are the woman whose shoes no one has yet to outshine. Continue to be that woman because there is a man who is going to adore you and appreciate you for everything you are worth.

A man may choose to stay with a woman who treats him badly because he fell in love with her during a time when she was pretending to be pleasant (somewhere in the beginning stages of their relationship). However, he won’t last with a woman who is malicious for the rest of his life. Over time, every mean or hurtful thing that woman does will begin to build up inside of him like boiling water.

That man who was once in love and who once catered to his woman’s every whim will begin to fall out of love. He will become less caring, and less nurturing. His heart will grow colder. She won’t see it, not until it is too late. She is blind and will continue to mistreat him. An ignorant woman will seal her own fate. She will think its okay to treat her man this way. He loves her so he is sure to stay. That woman has no idea that her man has an icy storm brewing inside of his heart. Where love once lived is a heart now torn apart. He loves her so much or so she believes. She knows he will stay, but what she chooses not to see is his mind has already broken away.

So you have an option. Treat your men right or don’t, but when you end up alone and can’t figure out what was the matter just remember that man whose heart you shattered.

You can never take away the words you said. They will live with him until the day he is dead. So watch your words and be kind, not cruel, or you may end up sad and lonely.

There is only so much one heart can handle; only so much one guy can handle before he breaks.

Most men truly do not want much. It isn’t a lot to send him a good morning text. It isn’t a lot to call him on your free time. It isn’t a lot to take him out on dates and spend one on one time with him. It isn’t a lot to watch your mouth. It isn’t a lot to treat him like a man. He will love and adore you for it.

There is a saying that whatever you give a man he will give you ten times more. That saying couldn’t be truer. So if you want to be adored, and spoiled and loved, you must stop being vicious, selfish, and rude.

Nice girls do not finish last. Truly nice girls get the guy in the end. At the end of the day, no matter how much money you make or how many freckles you have, a man looking for real love is going to find his worth, along with a woman who deserves him. Your money will be spent, and your looks are sure to go, but if you have a good heart, love can flourish. So be the nice girl or risk losing your men to women who are far better than you ever could be.

This does not mean that you allow yourselves to be treated badly either, but it means opening your heart to good men. It means being a compromising person. It means being forgiving, and nurturing… the kind of woman who would make a good wife and mother. Do not be a doormat for a man who does not appreciate you; however, if your man loves and adores you, be kind because if you don’t, you will lose him in the end.

*Initial article was on Thought Catalog, “Be A Good Man, Because A Woman Will Never Forget How You Treated Her”

This post is dedicated to all men out there.

1st RATU Suria Blog Awards


LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,

Your clicks and whatever you did over the past week and you have chosen:

AQILAH

‘RATU OF THE WEEK’

Aqilah

Ratu Of The Week
(14 – 22 Nov)

JANNAH JAKASHA

‘MOST SOUGHT OUT RATU’

Jannah Jakasha

‘Most Sought Out Ratu
(14 – 22 Nov)

Alright, I will now attempt to get an interview with them and provide whoever is reading this blog with a little bit more information about these ladies.

In the meantime, the clicks are open again for the 2nd ‘Ratu Of The Week’ and ‘Most Sought Out Ratu’!

*Should either of the ladies appear TOP again, I will give it up to the next one in line so at least can get to know other girls also lah hor!

  • To begin clicking on your next ‘Ratu Of The Week’, come back to my first entry with their photos here and you do what you guys do best! 
  • For ‘Most Sought Out Ratu’, well, it’d be based on whoever appears highest on counts on the search list! 

 

Ready for Singapore’s Malay Beauty Pageant?


I have always loved women regardless of their age, looks or status but I love their personality more – not all types but definitely those that are able to entertain my ever clocking mind.

On 14 November 2012, I attended the Press Conference where the ladies were the focal point of attention, RATU, a beauty pageant organised by MediaCorp Suria with strong partnership from the famous Malaysian producer, David Teo, who’s company had lend support towards the success of this pageant.

RATU

RATU

What was I looking for and did I get what I looked out for?

I saw 16 ladies strutting their way down on the mini stage with their hair beautifully done and make-up on (I wish they didn’t have any make-up on though).

I saw 16 ladies whom I wish I could bring home with me for my own personal elimination down to 4 to be made my wives (Why settle for 1 if I can have 4? [Berangan Muslim yang boleh dijadikan teladan]).

I don’t think there’s much that I want to say further for now, so Gentlemen, please keep your hands to your keyboards as you scroll down your mouse to take a look at the 16 Finalists!

SATISFIED?

There’s lots to expect for this competition happening over 8 weeks!

Unfortunately, I will have to miss the first 2 episodes starting on 27th November as I’ll be heading to Indonesia for exchange and to visit my parents!

Oh well, I’ll have my own beauty pageant there I guess!

The Perfect Kind Of A Man


(With the name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Very Merciful)

I was watching the episodic series, Cold Blood, earlier tonight and the story centered around a couple who after being married for 5 years, began to have problems in their marriage.

Issues such as Jealousy and Trust were prominently the cause of the problems in the marriage as well as Disrespect.

Watching the show, there were also other issues which came up and the more prevalent one was the husband was beating the wife. But yet, the wife refuses to divorce him but instead, sticks it out with him until she eventually caught him sleeping with another woman. But of course, this happened only after he had caught her seeing other men behind his back on several occasions.

Whatever the case, this story prompted me to raise a question, a very simple fundamental question, “Why do women get hooked to men who love to treat them badly?”

I have several answers of my own but I thought that perhaps it would be best to open it up to the land of Twitter where discussions could be more rife and open for debate.

And it all came down to this, most men who treat women badly were also:

  • Sweet-Talkers,
  • Were more willing to show Sweet Gestures like buying them food (so easy ah? Like bribing kindergarten kid with candy),
  • Had the ability to brainwash (or the women brainwashed herself into thinking that she couldn’t find a better man),
  • Gave women the belief that they could be changed for the better (or women believed that they had such abilities),
  • Attractive AND
  • Sexy

And then of course, some traits that the ladies said they wanted in a man:

  • Sweet
  • Intelligent
  • Attractive
  • Well-Mannered
  • Humourous AND
  • Patient

all of which I believe you can find in the kind of guy called, ‘Mommy’s Boy’ or ‘Mr Nice Guy’ which doesn’t sit well with women because they believe that the guy will only follow what the mother says.

Relationship Traits

Relationship Traits

Well, as a Muslim, and those who did reply to me were Muslims, Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) when asked by a friend whom to respect between  the parents, replied “Mother” thrice before replying “Father” on the fourth. This puts the mother, a woman, in a very high position within Islam and it was also mentioned that the road to Heaven lies underneath the mother’s feet, not literally of course.

So, I don’t see why there should be any reason to argue why the ‘Mommy’s Boy’ or ‘Mr Nice Guy’ shouldn’t listen to his mother, especially if she’s a devout and well-learned Muslim. I mean, we all do agree to the saying, “A Mother Knows What’s Best”, right?However, he has every right to go against what she says or tells him to do if it goes against Islam because God did mention this as well in the Quran but he has to do this with utmost respect.

And well, what’s the conclusion in the end?

The Perfect Kind Of A Man in my opinion is only a fairy tale, conjured up by Hollywood movie producers, scriptwriters and directors and brought to life by extremely talented actors, because even if the traits of a ‘Mr Nice Guy’ is evident in a man, a woman will find means and ways and reasons and excuses to ‘Friend Zone‘ him because she will brainwash herself into thinking that she doesn’t deserve him or that he deserves someone better than her.

OR she will ONLY choose him, after she has had much regret with other guys who has battered her up so badly that the only guy she knows who won’t hurt her will be that ‘Mr Nice Guy’.

(This Entry Is Dedicated To A Dear Friend Of Mine Who In My Opinion Is “THE PERFECT KIND OF A MAN”)