Being in a relationship is probably one of the best things that could happen to anyone, especially to someone who hasn’t been in a relationship nor experienced unconditional love from another.
But in relationships, there also comes certain degrees of issues that needs to be tackled with.
Some of these issues though considered small by the person or victim, could in fact be huge.
One of these issues to be taken up that has grown into some kind of a fad especially amongst the ladies in recent years is the issue of self mutilation.
Self Mutilation is Self-harm (SH) or deliberate self-harm (DSH) includes self-injury (SI) and self-poisoning and is defined as the intentional, direct injuring of body tissue without suicidal intent. The most common form of self-harm is skin cutting but self-harm also covers a wide range of behaviours including burning, scratching, banging or hitting body parts, interfering with wound healing, hair pulling (trichotillomania) and the ingestion of toxic substances or objects.
For most part of the person inflicting the injury on themselves, they do not feel any pain.
In fact, self mutilation is considered a form of taking away or diverting emotional pain or at least so they (those who self mutilate) believe.
Individuals who self mutilate come from many different backgrounds and thus, is not just limited to a particular segment or group of individuals from a particular educational or social background.
What is common amongst all these individuals who self mutilate is that they seek attention from individuals whom they are in love with, which most of the time are they’re own partners/ lovers.
The kind of attention they seek for often involves alot of physical and emotional energy and thus, when their partners are unable to accede to such requests, these individuals feel neglected and begin to victimise themselves with the purpose of regaining their partner’s attention and what better way to achieve this than to self mutilate.
Now, self mutilation is NOT COOL.
But of course, if you self mutilate, you’d probably say that smoking is not cool and brings about the same kind of harm that mutilation does.
Sorry mutilators, but I’m afraid that there is a big contrasting difference between mutilation and smoking. Smokers don’t smoke to seek attention or to divert their pain emotional pain away but mutilation does – and if you don’t agree with me, you probably mutilate or mutilated at some point of time in your life.
Honestly, if you self mutilate to get attention, I’m afraid you’re a big loser in life and I probably have to take my hats off to your partner/ lover for wanting to be there for you to help you get through it. If I was in the situation, I’d probably just fuck off because trying to harm yourself only goes to show how immature you are and your inability to manage your own feelings and expectations against someone who loves and cares you. You can jump down off the building for all I care, because if you don’t know how to love yourself, don’t bother saying you’re in love with someone.
You’re also probably someone so god damn selfish and self centred because you don’t care about the feelings of your own family members who brought you up well and sent you to school.
If you self mutilate and you’re reading this, go get counselling or seek psychiatric help, PLEASE.
For the sake of your own well being, I’d even volunteer to hear your problems out and help you out along the way and you know I’ll be impartial because I’m not someone who takes sides.
So, for all the peace and tranquility in the world, I hope you mutilators, STOP self mutilating yourself.
The only thing that comes close to mutilation should be a guy undergoing circumcision.
Whatever I write above is based on my interpretation and observation. Research conducted mainly through interviews and hearsays amongst peers.
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